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Please be serious…

I am 41 years old, 5′ 8" and 139 lbs, blonde hair and blue eyes, attractive and fit…here is my problem…

I have little sexual experience, two long term relationships, both with kids…I am divorced now and have a new boyfriend, my age and also very attractive. When we started dating he said that he only dated younger women (I mean 20′s) and has never dated a woman his age or one with children. Our relationship is great but I am so insecure about the "age" issue. He looks at porn, "barely legal" yada yada, which may be part of the problem, but let’s face it, men look. The real problem is in the bedroom. I don’t think he finds me attractive. We have sex maybe once or twice a week and he NEVER leaves me unsatisfied be it oral or intercourse. The problem is he is rarely satisfied unless it’s oral. He struggles to maintain an erection during intercourse. Of course I was concerned and asked him if I was different because I have had children and he said that there was less "resistance" but it wasn’t "bad". I am so upset…am I ruined. He said that he is not a youngster anymore and it is harder for him to stay "up" or have an orgasm. But, big but, he has no problem taking care of himself EVERY morning with his porn. He sayll stop and things will get bettere together it will stop and things will get better but if I am not "young" enough or don’t "feel good" will it? I am not an insecure person and have been "pursued" many times. I have never had this problem in my previous relationship and my ex was older. Help me understand…I know it’s a personal thing to talk about, but I don’t want to "nag" him and make him even more insecure about it, I am just afraid that will make it worse if it’s him and not me.

My question again was about fit over 40 and there have been some great answers